As I get to know my Brides during the planning process, an interesting thing happens. The more time I spend with a Bride to be, the more I begin to see their true essence. Most Brides remain true to the vision of their Wedding day, while recognizing that their marriage is a future unknown - usually they are excited and nervous about becoming a wife.

Then there are the Brides that only see the Wedding. Yes, organizing a Wedding is a big job that requires many hours of planning and making significant decisions. You can't help but get caught up in all the details. But have you thought much about the Marriage ? As a Wedding vendor, a Bride's Marriage is not really my concern, but as I witness certain dynamics unfold between Brides, Grooms and their families, I often think that some of my clients are over focused on the Wedding, and missing the big picture.

So what's the happy solution? I say it's balance.

Your Wedding is an important short-term goal which necessitates a focus on your guests, your desired "look and feel of the day" and how you want to start your Marriage. Your long-term goal, of course is your Marriage which will be much like a roller coaster. There may be no answers now, for future questions, but at least you can build a good foundation from the start.